Today was hard!!! I thought things were getting better, but #1 has started biting #2 and drawing blood. Today it was the ear, yesterday the arm, and the day before the cheek. #2 has bite marks all over her! If anyone has any advice let me know. We are really only allowed to use timeout for discipline but that is not working for this situation.
#1 throws the worst fits I have ever seen a 3 year old have. I am blown away but given her situation I can understand where she learned this behavior. I never thought it would be so difficult to reprogram a child.
#2 is doing great she is the best eater and the sweetest little thing. Yesterday she lost her brand new shoe at Cosco.
So far the past few days the girls have had some firsts. Mashed potatoes, apple sauce, oatmeal, pancakes, and grilled cheese sandwiches. I didn't know it was possible for a kid to have never tried these foods by age 3! Also I vacuumed the other day and the girls jumped back scared. I had to explain to them what it was. #1 got up on her bed and told #2 she better hurry up because it was going to eat her.:)
Today we had some serious fits. #1 refused to put her shoes on and we were going to the park. She learned a hard lesson. She couldn't play at the park without shoes. It was a hard day :( I ended up letting her play after about 10 minutes of sitting in the stroller. She hopefully learned her lesson because in the afternoon she told me that if we needed to go somewhere she could put her shoes on.
We went to our bible study and the girls came. #1 finally warmed up at the end and showed everyone how sassy she can be. Mike and I were so tired that I called wipes, "dipes". On the way home Mike wanted the girls to look out the window and to find glowing rabbits. #1 said well I don't see any but I hear them! LOL!
Deuteronomy 4:36
From heaven he made you hear his voice to discipline you. On earth he showed you his great fire, and you heard his words from out of the fire.
You're doing great! Keep on keepin' on! I am praying things will settle down soon and you'll only experience "normal" fits. :) You're so right, time out isn't always the best discipline, are there any privileges you could take away for biting? Or maybe start a reward system with stickers and after a certain number of days with no biting they get a treat. Just a thought...
ReplyDeleteI agree with the charts idea. You can buy little rewards charts wherever you buy your teacher supplies, like Mardel. Our kids get stickers for things like: obeyed the first time they were told to do something, went to bed or nap without crying, cleaned up toys etc. without crying, did something nice for someone else, helped some else do a chore. Once they get five stickers they get a little prize, like a tic-tac or one or two jelly beans. then as they get more stickers they get bigger prizes like going to the park, going to eat and play at McDonald's, taking a trip alone with mom or dad to the store, picking out a toy at Dollar tree, or going to a movie if they have done really well. I try to limit fun stuff like McDonald's to a reward so that it is special when they do earn it. We go to the park a lot even if it isn't reward time but we find a special one to go to for a reward, like Legacy.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that if the rewards aren't working then taking something away from them is good. Or not allowing something fun, like TV time or for Paisley what works well is not letting her wear the clothes she wants to wear. I will pick out something plain and not pink and that makes her upset and she'll work to get to pick out what she can wear. That doesn't work with Luke though, lol.
we'll keep you in our prayers,
Erica and Keith